By Gary Thomas
Loss brings heartache. Catastrophic loss brings catastrophic heartache.
Unfortunately, some marriages are buried alive by the avalanche of grief, and they never recover. Joe and Janell found a way to push forward in the face of the worst kind of loss.
If you talk with Joe on Zoom, his head is framed by a giant baseball jersey with the number 17. That was the number Joe’s son, Garrett, wore as a celebrated high school catcher. Garrett was Joe and Janell’s only child, a gifted boy with a promising future.
Everything changed on November 4, 2012, when Joe and Janell got the worst knock on their door you could ever imagine.
Garrett, their only child, was dead.
For the next year, Joe and Janell had to work hard to keep pursuing honesty, to process their grief, and to learn how to stay together. Here are some tips they learned along the way.
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