Have you ever tried to take a hot cake out of the oven without potholders? That would be crazy, right? You’d probably not only drop the cake and ruin it, but you’d also burn your hands in the process. However, if you waited until the cake cooled down, it wouldn’t be a problem to handle at all.
My husband and I deal with heated conflicts the same way. Whenever our emotions become heated, we remind ourselves that we need to wait to “handle” the problem or resolve the conflict.
Now, it hasn’t always been this way—hence the messy marriage! In the past, there were way too many times when we both tried to handle the conflict immediately and were burned because of it. Through the hard knocks of life and God’s conviction, we’ve come to learn that—Timing is key to handling conflict in a healthy and responsible way.
There are four emotions that could be considered “fire-starters” in a conflict. They are:
If we are feeling any of…