Recently I had a reader ask me about how to deal with a controlling and critical spouse. I have to say that I’m guilty of playing both positions on this one—offense and defense. And I can say from first-hand experience that I think control and criticism are two of the biggest mess makers out there.
Let’s say that you have a spouse that likes to follow certain unwritten rules. You’ve known this from the first day you laid eyes on each other. In fact, you found this knack for knowing just what to do in every situation attractive at first—that was until your spouse started telling “you what to do!” And not only does your spouse tell you what to do, but there’s an underlying judgment or criticism that stings of superiority as well.
How do you deal with that kind of attitude?
It’s an attitude that certainly doesn’t feel like it belongs in a loving and respectful marriage. But then again, marriage can be messy. Whenever two imperfect people with the…