If you feel like making friends is getting harder as you get older, it’s not all in your head. In a recent NPR interview, psychologist and University of Maryland professor Marisa G. Franco said making friends becomes more difficult as you get older because it no longer happens organically.
“Sociologists have kind of identified the ingredients that need to be in place for us to make friends organically, and they are continuous unplanned interaction and shared vulnerability,” says Franco, who is writing a book on making friends as an adult. “But as we become adults, we have less and less environments where those ingredients are at play.
If we continue to expect friendships to happen naturally like they did when we were kids, we run the risk of waiting for something that might never come. Being intentional is essential.”
I’ve seen this phenomenon play out in my own life. As a college student and young professional, I was surrounded by people in a similar stage of life….