When I was in my 20s, I stumbled into a mentorship relationship with a coworker’s teen daughter. Once a week, I would pick her up to work out at the gym together and then enjoy a latte afterward.
She came from a complicated blended family, and even though my primary function in our outings was to ask questions and listen to my young friend talk about high school drama, home struggles and future hopes, I looked forward to our time together and felt fulfilled afterward. Though technically I poured into this young woman, in doing so I too received an emotional and spiritual lift.
A few weeks ago, I was talking to a friend who expressed a desire to have more friends and feel more connected in her community. One of my first suggestions was for her to have “pour out” relationships. Whether serving in youth group, going to coffee with someone in crisis or mentoring a young person, a service-based relationship will increase your sense of connectedness and well-being.